52 weeks of gratitude : Week#2 ~ Thank you Yogesh

I have been wondering what to write for Yogesh from last 3 days. Before wedding, i have written so much poetry about him, us , love and post wedding the feelings have just been exceptionally overwhelming.

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What do I not thank you for dear husband ?? I remember starting a happiness jar and the first note was for the wonderful family I have got through you. Never have I felt I am the outsider in your world or theirs.

I took the 100 happy days challenge and one third posts were for you ( actually it was for the late night chai you make for me When I am lazy )

I started the reading meets and you made such lovely posters for the invites , you bear my dilemma for venues, accompany me on each meet and even pretend to read at times.

you download the songs I like some times so I have something to hear when we go for a drive.

You smile at all my silly ideas and never even dissuade me , even when you have your doubts !

These are the few things that seem small but make the most difference to me. I am thankful that you accept me as I am and even if you keep poking me to be better or different, its never out of my zone.

I am happy for the love and cares as much as the arguments we have because that show that we know not just to please but to have differences and resolve them too.

Thank you everything and every moment you have spent with me before wedding for that made me fall in love with you. Thank you more for keeping that love in such high esteem every passing day.

#ToiletForBabli : No open defecation

This year , i visited my husband’s village for the first time. Everything about the village life was so wonderful and refreshing. While returning one evening from neighboring village, I saw so many ladies walking into the fields with water bottles in hand. It did not take me more than a minute to realize that they were going for nature’s call.

This further made me wonder was if these people have to wait for the daylight to fade and search far and wide for a space where they can defecate without bothering of stares of others ~ men and women alike.

At what age will a mother tell her daughter not to defecate in open but rather search a hidden spot or wait for night to do that ? That felt so unnatural and sad too.

For the first time, I actually felt blessed that our village home had a proper toilet and my family had inspired and asked others to do the same for the sake of their daughter’s and sister’s dignity. While that is not a really valid reason to have a toilet in your home or perhaps a common toilet for set of houses, it is a very strong excuse to motivate people I feel.

But that IS NOT going to make much difference unless majority of the village stops open defecation.

As per my understanding , the two reasons people do not readily agree for toilets is that they want it far from the living / eating spaces. And other is affordability. With land becoming scarce and houses getting smaller, the proper waste disposal and avoiding the stink is major concern for people who do not realize that defecating in open will attract flies which then travel to their living and eating spaces to cause diseases. Childrean are most affected by these diseases which lead to many deaths if not permanent damage to physical and mental health. The villagers do not realize that they are causing harm to their families that is going to affect the generations to come. The unhealthy kids become unhealthy adults who are less productive and so earn less and spend on medicines and treatments of their family.

Also, without proper treatment if this waste, the whole area starts stinking making it unfit for any use whatsoever.

The affordability issue is a one time excuse and can be handled either by sponsoring the toilets and then educating the people that they would be saving money and time from the treatment of their families. Infact , with falling immunities and poor nutrition being common in poor families, half of these kids are going to be affected by open defecation.

After my return from the village, I had almost forgotten about this until I read about Domex Toilet Academy. Domex, HUL’s flagship sanitation brand, currently runs the Domex Toilet Academy (DTA) programme. Domex Toilet Academy was launched on 19th November 2013. It aims to become a sustainable and long-term solution to provide sanitation that benefits the local community and helps stimulate the local economy. The Toilet Academy makes toilets accessible and affordable, while promoting the benefits of clean toilets & good hygiene.

A basic functional toilet will cost some where about 2~4k. While this amount can be too much for a poor family, many of us can contribute a bit and make it happen for so many villages.

You can bring about the change in the lives of millions of kids, thereby showing your support for the Domex Initiative. All you need to do is “click” on the “Contribute Tab” on www.domex.in and Domex will contribute Rs.5 on your behalf to eradicate open defecation, thereby helping kids like Babli live a dignified life.

will I last ?

will I last all days ?
Its something
I stopped asking
a long time back;
time now lacerate
the passion to pen,
ripe ideas tempt me but
I do not comprehend;
I simply say to myself,
make it fun,
make this count;
read and write,
with dignity and pride;
make friends as you walk
spread words while you last.

This is the first thing that popped in ym head as I chanced upon Octpowrimo challenge . No way I can write 31 poems but I can sure try my best.

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